Trust
Is trust important to you? Let me explain the basics so that you can have more trust.
In our home, we watch a lot of reality shows in our household and something that comes up a lot in those shows is trust. I find this interesting because trust is actually quite simple.
When I talk about trust, there are really two types of trust that come to most people’s minds:
Trusting other people
Trusting in life and trusting in positive outcomes.
What is Trust?
Trust is really quite simple. Many people want to know how to have trust, but the fact is that you have 100% trust at all times. Doubt is not a lack of trust; it is trust in a negative outcome. You have negative expectations.
When you understand this, you can ask yourself if you want to trust in a negative outcome or not. Doubt means that you have. a negative belief.
How to Trust
The way to trust, in positive outcomes, therefore, is to identify the negative belief and choose the opposite. Be conscious of your decision. Act as though you believe it is true. Actions speak louder than words.
Trusting in People
At first, this might seem confusing because you can act as though you trust someone, and they can let you down. But what is actually happening is that when they let you down, you are the one deciding that they let you down and that the outcome is bad. You are assuming that the result of their actions is a negative in your life.
If you trust and insist upon a positive outcome, then you have to assume that their decisions have a positive impact on your life. You must look for and insist upon finding a positive outcome. This is not about placating yourself and being fake positive; it’s about seeing that, genuinely and truly, the results are good for you.
Trust in Yourself
Really, what this means is trusting in yourself. For example, if you share a secret with someone and they share it with others, you have to assume that it was good that the secret was shared.
If someone talks badly about you behind your back, you have to assume that this is good for you in some way. Maybe it makes it clear to others that you are a good person. Maybe you’re assuming that “bad talk” is limiting you in some way, when in fact it may just be making the other person look bad and instill more confidence in you and your character. Maybe it means you rely too much on the approval of others to live your life; in other words, you’re not trusting that you have what it takes to lead an enjoyable life. Maybe you were going to trust them with more, and now you realize sooner that you can’t, and maybe someone else or something else is a better choice. Maybe it means that you’re relying on others too much to provide stability and balance in your life. Maybe it’s giving you publicity.
Trust in yourself and that you can live the life that you want without the approval of others or the actions of others. The odd thing is, the more you trust in yourself, the more others will be trustworthy.
Feelings Come From Beliefs
All feelings come from beliefs. So when something “bad” happens, the reason that you feel bad is that you are interpreting it in a disempowering way. You are holding yourself back in the way that you interpret the situation. When you feel bad, you can do the recast procedure. Ask yourself what you must believe to be feeling the way that you do, choose new positive beliefs, imagine how a person you admire would live with those beliefs, and then act that way.
Don’t Blame. Don’t Criticize. Don’t Make Excuses.
Take responsibility for your life and don’t blame others. When you do criticise, you just demonstrate to the world that you are powerless. Choose to trust in a positive outcome regardless of what is happening. It’s okay if it’s not obvious how. Just assume that it is and allow the why to come later.
Take back control of your life. Remember that fear is not a lack of trust, but 100% trust in a negative outcome. Be conscious of this. Own it. Choose a more empowered path, and take it.
