Anxiety
Anxiety seems to be a popular topic these days. I am surprised by this because I don’t think that most people know that anxiety is treatable. I think most people don’t understand what it is and how to address it.
I will show you a way to deal with it. This is an approach that can work 100% of the time. Of course, you can use your approach if you find one better that you like. While this approach can work, it is not the only approach.
To understand the approach, I have to first give you some background information, so bear with me as I explain some fundamentals. This will give you some structure and understanding of what’s going on, so that the solutions make more sense, and it’s not simply “Do this because I say so.”
All Feelings Come From Beliefs
The first fundamental thing to understand when dealing with feelings is that all feelings come from beliefs. There are no exceptions, and this includes physical pain. When you feel bad, there is always a feeling behind it.
What Is A Belief
A belief is two parts: you know something, and you have an opinion about it. If something bad happens, it’s not when it happens, but when you become aware of it, and make a judgment about it. If a person you love hugs you, you have one feeling, and if someone who disgusts you hugs you, you have a different emotion. It’s the same physical experience.
Why Some Opinions Feel Good and Others Bad
What ultimately determines your feelings is your opinion about something. Some opinions feel good, and others feel bad. There are higher forces in this life. Whether you want to say that that is God, all that is, your soul, or your higher self, it doesn’t matter. The reason you feel bad is that your opinion does not agree with that of this higher force. From a physical perspective, you might say that you are not resonating with that higher power. You’re off course.
It’s Like the Hot Cold Game
Maybe you played the hot-cold game when you were a child. Someone hides something, and it’s your job to find it. The only clues that you are given are hot and cold. You’re not disappointed when someone says freezing or cold, because it means you’re headed in the wrong direction. You welcome the feedback. Feelings are like this.
Welcome Negative Feelings
The first thing is to welcome your negative feelings. Because they are telling you that your current beliefs are heading you in a disempowered direction. Embrace your negative feelings and be honest with yourself about what you must believe. I will provide a procedure a little later.
Identify Your Negative Beliefs
So fundamentally, when you’re feeling anxious, identify your negative beliefs and find new empowered beliefs. The more you feel negative, the stronger those disempowered beliefs will make themselves clear. It’s not endless. barrel. Embrace negativity.
Action and Beliefs
People often want to get rid of a negative belief. You can’t. You contain all beliefs. For every belief, you contain its opposite as well. What determines the effect that you get in your life is not which belief you have, because you have both. What determines the effect is which belief you act upon. In this reality, you are forced to decide. Action forces you to decide which belief you want to activate. So you want to be conscious of your negative beliefs and choose new empowered beliefs, and then act upon them.
Anxiety and Fear
Anxiety is a fear-based emotion. Fear means that you believe something negative is going to happen. Some people might say that anxiety is excitement with a negative interpretation.
Learn to Trust
Many people want to know how to trust. Many people think trust comes from stability in others and the outside world. People think trust comes from the safety and security of things outside of you. But you are always trusting 100% of the time. Fear is not a lack of trust, but trust in a negative outcome. Acting with fear as a foundation, you will create a negative reality.
The key to trusting is to accept that no one else, or nothing in the outside world, can ever give you security. You have to be conscious of how you doubt, and decide if you wish to continue to doubt, or whether you would prefer to trust. Decide what you would like to believe and then act that way.
Your Label Things
You might say, well, I decided to trust in this thing or this person, and then some bad thing happened. The thing is that you are the one deciding that that thing is negative or bad, and as a result, you get a negative thing. Life is like an Improv play, and everything is a prop. You get to decide if it is good or bad. It’s up to you.
Your Mind is A Satellite Dish
Many people think that we are controlled by our minds, and we are basically sort of biological computers. Our minds do not control our lives. This is simple to provide. You can think about more things that could exist in this reality. You can think about things that could not possibly exist. What you are thinking is the channel that you are tuned into.
If you saw a satellite receiver, you know that the TV shows, movies, and data coming out of it do not come from it. They are created somewhere else, and the satellite receiver is just the translator of one type of energy to another.
Your Imagination
I know this will sound strange, but one of the gifts we’re given is our imagination. We can imagine various scenarios and see how they would play out. We will use this tool in order to get you back on track. You can ask yourself, “If I believed this, how would I act?” If that’s not working, you might say, “If this other person believed this, how would they act?”
The Recast Process
This is a process that I have seen work 100% of the time for people who do the work. And if you are not willing to do the work, I would ask you why? Why would you choose to continue to feel bad?
First, you want to take a snapshot of what you’re thinking. Write down everything you’re thinking and feeling. Wiring is helpful because it can keep you from going in circles. Let it all out. Hold nothing back. You want to capture what “channel” you’re tuned into.
Make a list of your beliefs. What must you believe to think the way that you do? Make a full list. You’ll get to a point when you say, “Yeah, that’s it.” Work until you have a list that captures what you’re feeling. That list might be, “I don’t have enough money,” “People don’t like me,” and “I can’t have what I want in life."
List your fundamental beliefs. At the end of the day, life reflects who you are. Your fundamental beliefs are the beliefs that you have about yourself. They have nothing to do with the outside world. You might say this is your “program.” For each belief that you listed in the previous step, identify what you must believe about yourself. A key point here is to leave reality out of it. This is 100% about you. For example, it might be that “I’m not good enough,” “I’m not abundant,” “I do not love myself,” and “I cannot enjoy my life.”
List Your Preferred Beliefs. Take your fundamental beliefs and write the opposite of those. This is who you prefer to be. “I am perfect,” “I am abundant,” “I love myself,” and “I can enjoy my life.”
Imagine the Ideal You. Brainstorm how a person who had those beliefs would live their lives. What would they do if they were in your shoes? If you have trouble imagining, think about what a role model might do in your exact situation. Think about what advice you would give to someone else. You can take this a step further by analyzing your beliefs from step 2, writing the opposite, and seeing how this ideal you would act.
Make a List of Actions. From the previous step, you want to generate a list of actions. What specifically would a person who had those preferred beliefs take? And of course, you have to now act this way going forward.
Is This Too Hard?
I know from experience that many people will not do the work, and they will say this process is hard, and they will make excuses. When I spent time at McLean Hospital, which is Harvard’s Psychiatric Hospital, one of the things that doctors would do was say to patients, “Are you going to do the work? We can show you how to change your life, but it only works if you do the work. We can talk all day long. You can imagine how things could be better, but at the end of the day, you have to do the work.” If the patients didn’t agree to do the work, they would say “Goodbye.” It’s your life, and it’s your choice. No one can make your life better but you. And if you want to, this is an approach that can work, but only if you do the work.
I encourage you to keep an open mind, and if it’s not working now, remember it and come back when you’re ready for a change and are willing to do the work. As I said before, this is an approach, and an effective approach, but you have to find your way.
